This article is the fourth of a series of nine, (Healthy Boundaries: 9 Steps to an Authentic Yes & A Great Life, 4 of 9) so be sure to watch for the upcoming articles as they come out over the next few weeks.

4. Never Give Up on Your Dreams

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Each Step to Be Addressed in Upcoming 9 Article Series!

What is it that makes people give up on their dreams? Most of us don’t consciously want to settle into a mundane life so what it is that keeps us from being who we really want to be?

As human beings, not only do we have to deal with all kinds of stressful feelings such as fear, insecurity, discouragement, overwhelm, etc. we are all hit at some point in our lives with huge challenges we didn’t count on such as a divorce, a bitter betrayal, the death of a loved one, a debilitating illness, job loss, or even a bankruptcy.

These defining events are not only hard to recover from, they tend to consume our energy and leave us feeling drained and withdrawn from life.

So what do we do? How do we navigate these unbelievable storms without losing hope or the vision that lights up our soul and makes life worth living?

2 Steps to Seeing the Situation with Spiritual Eyes and a Higher Perspective:

Since we all will face big challenges at some point in our lives, I wanted to share a few ideas. It is my hope that they will offer comfort and a lift during difficult times.

  1. Raise your perspective; get above the situation so you can see it through the eyes of your spirit.  

    Image courtesy of Jeff Ratcliff /

    Image courtesy of Jeff Ratcliff /

Do a meditation with the intent to see the situation through the eyes of your Higher-Self, the Spiritual Being that’s having this human experience. When your mind feels calm and clear, ask your Higher Self, “What did my soul want to gain from this experience? Could it be forgiveness, compassion, endurance, courage or perhaps the ability to trust myself, to stand on my own, or to listen to my intuition?”

Trust the ideas that come to you. Viewing the situation from this perspective helps you find the courage and inspiration to know how best to move through it. This way you can use the experience to transform, to see your life through new eyes, and to arrive at the end of a dark time feeling majestic and empowered rather than drained and diminished.


  1. Connect with Grace

Some things in life are just too much for us to handle on our own. We need to access Grace which is healing strength from the Divine.

Caroline Myss talks eloquently in her book, “Defy Gravity, Healing Beyond the bounds of Reason,” about the specific graces and how they can help us get through life’s difficulties. If we can focus on allowing these graces to flood our lives, we will not only be able to rise above the situation, we’ll be able to hold on to our dreams.

The energy of grace constantly surrounds us and is always available. Our task is simply to be open and allow it in. It is helpful and empowering to focus on the graces during prayer and meditation. I especially like to incorporate them using Meridian Tapping, which works extremely well when you’re facing a difficult situation or just feeling stuck and unsure of what steps need to be taken next. Tapping with the graces in mind helps shift the energy and open your heart so you can more fully receive the spiritual support that always surrounds you.

Below I’ve included a list of the 7 graces followed by a Meridian Tapping clearing to help incorporate this beautiful energy.

Meridian Tapping, also known as EFT, is an energy healing tool that can be thought of as emotional acupuncture but without the needles. It’s simple and it works. Just use your fingertips and tap the different points illustrated below while reading the associated script provided after the list of graces. Take deep breaths as you tap the points and allow your body to release the stress and connect with grace and healing.

The Graces:

The Grace of Wisdom: The ability to receive loving information from God, the capacity to see your life from a higher perspective.

The Grace of Knowledge: The ability to understand and recognize spiritual concepts and truths.

The grace of Counsel: Guidance and clarity about the path you need to take.

The Grace of Courage: Courage and strength in times of chaos and uncertainty, courage to move toward your life purpose.

The Grace of Understanding: The ability to more deeply understand yourself and why you do the things you do, and how others are feeling.

The Grace of Creativity and Trust: Creativity and a deeper level of trust in the Divine, the ability to see all of life as loving and supporting your highest growth and learning.

The Grace of Reverence: A loving feeling of belonging with all of life, a deep love and respect for your own life, an ability to know and feel your value.


Meridian Tapping Technique to Incorporate the Graces:

Meridian Tapping Points

Meridian Tapping Points

Side of hand: Even though things are hard right now, I’m facing a lot of challenges that I’m not sure how to deal with, I accept myself with kindness and compassion. This has been really hard.

Even though I don’t know what to do, I’m feeling lost and discouraged; I accept myself and all these uncomfortable feelings.

Even though I’m feeling hopeless and exhausted, right now it feels like things are spinning out of control, I accept myself and forgive the situation, I’m doing the best I know how.


Inside of eyebrow: I’m feeling so drained and discouraged right now.

Side of eye: There’s so much going on, I’m not sure how to handle it.

Under the eye: Things are crazy and I’m worried about the people around me.

Under the nose: I don’t know how to handle this, I can’t do it by myself.

Chin: I feel so lost and overwhelmed. I’ve never been in this position before. I don’t even know where to start.

Collarbone: There’s a part of me that’s feeling exhausted and like, “Why bother.”

Under the Arm: I’m choosing to ask for the grace of wisdom right now, I need the ability to see my life and this situation from a higher perspective.

Top of Head: I’m choosing to ask for the grace of counsel, that my steps will be guided and the path I need to take will be clearly illuminated so I can know what to do.

Inside of eyebrow: I’m asking for the grace of courage so I can have the strength and presence of mind to follow the counsel and wisdom I’m given.

Side of Eye: I’m asking for the grace of compassion and understanding. Right now I’m angry and confused and I need to better understand myself, this situation, and the people involved. I need to be filled with compassion so I can forgive and let go.

Under the Eye: I’m asking for the grace of reverence, mostly because I can feel myself losing love and regard for my own life. I need this grace so I can feel loved and connected with the people around me and feel a deep love and value for my own life.

Chin: I’m choosing to feel loved and connected with the Divine. I’m now choosing to remember that I am never alone and I’m choosing to feel grateful for the Angels that are surrounding and healing this situation right now.

Collarbone: I’m choosing to trust that I am strong enough to get through this and I’m open to receiving clear guidance and support so I can know how to move through this challenging situation.

Under the arm: I’m choosing to feel calm and peaceful, to be the calm, the eye of the storm. The world around me may feel crazy and out of control but I’m choosing to know that no matter what happens I can feel calm and grounded.

Top of head: In this space, I can know what to do and how to move forward. I’m choosing to know that this will pass and I’m okay. I’m choosing to feel calm, peaceful, and inspired.

Take a few deep breaths and feel yourself being connected to the healing graces. Trust that the guidance and solutions you need will show up soon and you’ll know what to do.


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