People are different. There are so many outward perspectives to consider. Too many voices cloud the mind and the heart. The clearest voice, though, is the one that is inside of us. It takes a resolute choice to detach from all the noise that surrounds us. Voices, opinions, noise, pressure, and time can all overwhelm us in some of the most important moments. The best thing to do in those moments is to detach from what might be going on outside of us and focus inward.
Detaching is a wonderful way to listen to what is inside of us. Detachment does not have to mean walking away from everything forever, and it also does not mean that detaching will take forever to do. One eats an elephant one bite at a time. For however long this issue has persisted, it will not be solved overnight. So, take a moment. Breathe. If you can’t give yourself a full day of quiet reflection, start small. Take five minutes. Leave the phone behind, turn off the television, turn down the radio and step outside. Smell the air, feel the ground beneath your feet, look up at the sky and feel how big the universe is compared to how small you are. Doing this will help you put your problems into perspective and show you that maybe your problems aren’t as big as you might be making them.
Take those few minutes for yourself. Listen to your gut reaction. Then, pay attention to what you fear, and it will point you in the right direction. Most of the time, it isn’t that we aren’t aware of the problem, it’s that we are afraid. Being honest with ourselves first, then being honest with others takes the strongest of courage.
Courage is not easy to come by. It takes courage for the drug addict to check himself into drug rehab. It takes courage for a family member to put good boundaries around themselves and say no. It takes courage to call and make that first appointment for anger management. It takes courage to come clean with your spouse, and even greater courage to stand in front of a mirror and look yourself in the eyes while speaking the truth. As Eric Thomas once said, “You cannot afford to live in potential for the rest of your life. At some point, you’ll have to unleash your potential and make your move”.
All it takes is one moment of clarity coupled with one moment of courage to begin. Once begun, you are half done. The entire revelation does not have to reveal itself in one moment, though. Listen to yourself and take the truth in small doses. It may take several moments of breathing throughout several weeks for you to accept the truth. Learning to give the gift of honesty to yourself can transform your entire life. For all the things that have seemed to hold you back, most of the time it is more likely to be those things we tell ourselves that cannot be done. Or we tell ourselves we don’t need help and that we can do it on our own. More often than not, this is the mantra that plays in our heads every day and rather than seeking help, we find ourselves further down the rabbit hole. Take one honest moment in that five-minute walk, and act on it. Seek the help you’ve been avoiding.
As you spend those few moments uncovering things that you might have been hiding away, you should find your potential opening up. As we begin to be honest with ourselves, the next step of what to do next feels more attainable.
Living life well means handling our pains and hurts well. That can’t be done until we are honest with ourselves. Lessons repeat themselves over and over until the message becomes abundantly clear. Being honest with yourself is the first step to finding your purpose in this world and to also finding just where you may need help outside of yourself. And who knows what greatness can come from it. It may take work and time, but being honest with where you are at and what you need is the first step towards some phenomenal healing.
“Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else.” – Les Brown