Are you struggling with accomplishing a goal? Is there something you should be doing differently than you are now, but you don’t even know what that is?
If you are at a loss, wanting something different, but a little fuzzy on how to proceed try focusing on the caregiver archetype. Many times when the caregiver archetype is talked about, it refers to taking care of someone else: a child, a client, a friend in need, or your family. The caregiver is best utilized when we take care of ourselves first. One of the first rules a student learns in any counseling program is that you must take care of yourself before you can be of assistance to any client. Overcoming fear of appearing selfish by taking care of yourself and not someone else is one challenge this archetype presents. Breathe through the fear & keep reading!
The caregiver archetype is typically thought of being a feminine archetype, however, it has half feminine and half masculine. This leads it to sometimes being called a yin/yang archetype. The yin and yang is necessary as the opposite forces bring in balance and harmony. The caregiver supports gradual growth and development by providing a foundation of nurturing and sustainability that feeds a state of equilibrium in our lives.
The caregiver will help you create the environment you need to be successful. The caregiver archetype takes a mundane routine up a level by turning it into a ritual. This communicates a level of importance that a routine never can. Your home is the most sacred of spaces, and it deserves to be treated as such. Pick one small ritual to take care of your environment and stick with it. Maybe make your bed each morning. Tidy up the kitchen each night.
Mothering myself has become a way of listening to my deepest needs, and of responding to them while I respond to my inner child.
A ritual involves time, space, and an activity. Take the time to determine what part of your day you have the most control over and start there. As you spend a moment contemplating the caregiver and how to best apply it, you are in the process of utilizing it!
And as you apply the caregiver to your environment, start to incorporate ways to apply the caregiver to yourself.
It’s easier to demand a lot from yourself when you’re giving a lot to yourself.
Are you eating healthy foods? Are you planning your meals in advance so you can more easily prepare your dinner at the end of the day? How much water are you drinking? How much physical movement do you have each day? An energized caregiver will help you to prep that meal in the morning, so at the end of a busy day you only have to throw it all together and cook. The caregiver will pack your lunch for you the night before and make sure your clothes are ironed before you go to bed.
The caregiver will teach your children to utilize their own caregivers. Take the time to teach your children household expectations, routines, and chores. They will obtain a sense of pride, accomplishment, and belonging as their responsibilities are increased. Please understand that children will do things differently than you, and it is best for all involved to accept their hard work. If you want a certain behavior (e.g., washing dishes, taking out the trash) it is most helpful to immediately acknowledge it and show appreciation for it.
As the caregiver takes care of day-to-day details, YOU will find the FREEDOM to pursue your divine potential.
The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.