What are the keys to a positive attitude and to brightening your sense of inner light? How do you get to the place inside where you become happy, alive, calm, and empowered? In my experience, the key to a good attitude is to realize deeply that the source of your world-view and your spiritual light is WITHIN YOU, and then you consciously separate yourself from other people’s negativity, doubts, fears, and opinions. Don’t give in to THEIR negativity. It’s not yours. See all that as their stuff.
To experience this, let’s take ourselves into the rediscovery of what I call our Sun-like Creatorship. The Sun gives life and is the source of life. So to be a Sun-like Creator of your world is the emotional and spiritual knowing that we are conscious creators of our lives. You are not a victim. You affect your life and a positive attitude toward people and events dramatically affects the way you experience life. When you know you create your life, your attitude improves and you become centered and empowered.
What follows is an excerpt from the forthcoming Book You Are the Sun, by Michael Alperstein. This book energizes a bright outlook toward life.
Let’s start with a meditation and a practice for you to explore. This exercise can dissipate any sense of victimhood still inside you and return you to a sense of inner brightness and freedom and optimism. Use it whenever you feel a sincere desire to free your self from blame and negativity.
First of all, find a place and time when you will not be disturbed.
Step one: Concentrate on something in your environment that is likely to elicit a mild emotional reaction or negative attitude: A pile of bills, a frustrating email, a mess of papers, a buzzing fly. Keep your attention on the object (s) and welcome any reactions that arise. Yes, welcome them! Let yourself be negative just for a time. The goal is to go through it and move beyond it.
Step two: With unrelenting honesty, discover the source of the flow of your reactions or negative perception.
With whatever emotion or thought that comes up in response to these objects, ask: From what does this arise?
Your goal is to get to the core, the source of your flow of reactions. Does that object/circumstance outside you cause your reaction???? Or is the source inside you, in your viewpoints or beliefs???
Keep going and you will find out…
From what does this reaction arise?
If you get to the HEART of your negative attitude, you will recognize you no longer need it. Maybe it seemed to be helping you in some way. Maybe part of you (unconsciously) thought being negative might get you more sympathy or support or whatever.
But if you drop your negative attitude, you can rest in a sense of optimism, and all good things are born out of optimism.
So meditate on the question above while you are looking at the objects around you. But don’t think too hard for the answer! Pose the question as if it were a prayer. Feel the answer…
If you ask the question with love for the asking, and stay with the exploration for as long as you need to, you will change your attitude. A positive attitude will naturally arise, because you will be letting go of the negative. It is as simple as that. To be positive is to stop being negative.
You will recognize deeply what the source of reaction is. You will see that the object outside is just an object. It is what it is. Experiential clarity of the part you play in emotion is bound to surpass logical findings. That is why you don’t have to “think about the answer.” Just feel it. Sense it.
Uplifting Your Attitude Higher
Now we are going to take the exercise a little further into other areas of life.
Step three: Think of a person that tends to elicit an emotional reaction in you. What do you judge about them? What do you see in them that you don’t like so much? Are they too controlling? Too timid? Too boring? Too uninspiring?
Again, let yourself TEMPORARILY have a negative attitude toward this person.
You might observe your reactions to both the ‘dark’ and ‘light.’ Sit quietly and explore the dominant reactions that arises in each moment as you think about this person.
To feel a feeling with love gives it room to change.
To feel your old negative attitudes and feelings, it might help to imagine you are shopping for a new jacket. Each reaction is like a jacket you are trying on at the store. Carefully try this jacket on for size by succumbing to the energy of your reaction. Courageously don it, even if it is not such a good fit. Feel it in your body. Let your reactions to this person flow on purpose. YOU WILL MOVE THROUGH THEM THIS WAY.
Step four: Explore your reactions in all their dimensions and again repeat the above question: From what does this arise? Get to the heart of your attitude and perceptions. Don’t necessarily answer the question with your thoughts. Just feel it. Allow intuition to show you the answer.
Keep going. Feel your reaction to the person and ask “From what does this reaction arise?”
This will take you beyond doubt and negativity into compassion, calm and optimism.
Suggested time frame for exercise: 15 minutes
Expected results: Absence of victimhood, freedom from judgment, a better attitude, certainty that no one out there can disturb you.
NOTE: 15 minutes with the above exercise is great, and…. an hour or two with this exercise can sometimes create seemingly-miraculous changes and stop negative thoughts in their tracks.
Positive Attitude Quotes
“Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.” ~Anthony J. D’Angelo
“If your ship doesn’t come in, swim out to it.” ~ Jonathan Winters
“Instead of always asking yourself why so-and-so acts this or that way, learn to ask: “What’s inside of me that wants to hurt itself over how anyone else acts?” ~Guy Finley
PRAYER FOR A JOURNEY
Thank you, God,
Not just for life,
But for our journey through life.
Life is a miracle,
And a journey through life
Is so full of so many more miracles
If we travel with our HeartSongs.
Thank you God for blessing me with
The gift of HeartSongs,
So that I can enjoy my miracles.
By Mattie J.T. Stepanek WRITTEN AT AGE SEVEN
“It is because you are different from anyone else that you are special.” ~ Unknown
“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.” – JK Rowling
“Only an acceptance of both the flowers and the thorns can bring you peace. Peace, after all, is the fruit of total acceptance.” ~ Osho
“If I wait until I become perfect before I love myself, I will waste my whole life. I am already perfect right here and right now. I am perfect exactly as I am.” – Louise L. Hay
“Here is an important key to keeping positive: If you are telling someone about a challenge or difficulty in your life, do so in a way that does NOT reinforce your “difficult story” around the challenge. Instead, speak about the challenge as matter-of-factly as possible. Just describe it. Change your attitude TOWARD your story, and watch the outer reality change too…” ~Michael Alperstein