“I am so beautiful, sometimes people weep when they see me. And it has nothing to do with what I look like really, it is just that I gave myself the power to say that I am beautiful…” ~Margaret Cho
Have you been thinking that it’s been a while since you felt beautiful?
In fact, maybe you’ve never felt beautiful. Maybe you’ve been described as cute, attractive or even pretty…but never BEAUTIFUL.
Doesn’t every woman want to be beautiful? I mean the Hollywood-drop-dead-gorgeous-kinda’-beautiful! Don’t we all want to experience that moment in time when the planets and stars are aligned and you are glowing! Your hair, makeup and clothing are working together perfectly and when you enter a room every head turns. Suddenly a soft light surrounds you and a hush descends as you walk through the door. You stand out in 3D, larger than life itself and you gracefully float on by as everyone Oohs and Ahhs!
And then…you wake up!
And if you are honest with yourself, you know that most mornings you stumble out of bed and go through your usual routine. Then, like that wallpaper you hate, you just sort of fade into the background of the day. People do not notice you when you walk down the street or into a room.
Growing up, I was dubbed the family “bookworm”. My favorite aunt interpreted this to mean that I was uninterested in anything so frivolous as fashion. My aunt would shake her head and say to me, “You’re just such a Plain Jane.”
She made this statement, not out of cruelty or any intention to wound me, but because I took more interest in books than my personal appearance. I was strictly T-shirts and jeans back then. My hair was usually pulled back into a ponytail or two braids if I was feeling adventurous. My sister, however, loved to leaf through my aunt’s fashion magazines and do inventive things with her hair and clothing.
For many years, I carried around my aunt’s description of me as a “Plain Jane”. I shut myself off from the possibility of experiencing myself as attractive, much less (are you kidding me?)…Beautiful!!!
You have to know that our definition of beauty is just made-up Hollywood stuff with no basis in reality whatsoever!
So here are 5 shortcuts to “Being Beautiful”:
- Give yourself permission to be Beautiful
Be willing to redefine what beauty is. Know it is not about something so trivial as weight, hair or eye color.
It is an internal process requiring no external validation.
- Value Yourself
Among the billions on the planet, there is not one person just like you!
“Never, in all of the seventy billion humans who have walked this planet since the beginning of time has there been anyone exactly like you.
Never, until the end of time, will there be another such as you. You have shown no knowledge or appreciation of your uniqueness.
Yet, you are the rarest thing in the world.”
- Honor Yourself
Ask to be made aware of your true nature. It is the core of your being which cannot be sullied by your experiences or fears. Know your value and live your worth! Get to know who you are and fall in love with that extraordinary being! A sacred text admonishes, “Know ye not that you are the temple of the living God.”
- Celebrate Yourself
Pay homage to your Divinity and revel in it! Take every opportunity to be as kind, loving and gentle with yourself as you are with others. In doing so, you give others the courage to claim their beauty too!
- Find Beauty in everything that you do
As Einstein said, “We may choose to live life like everything is a miracle…or nothing is.” Find the sacred in the mundane. If you look for it, I assure you that it is there. Affirm Beauty in who you are and what you do and you will experience it in a real and personal way!