“I am so beautiful, sometimes people weep when they see me. And it has nothing to do with what I look like really, it is just that I gave myself the power to say that I am beautiful…” ~Margaret Cho
Have you been thinking that it’s been a while since you felt beautiful?
In fact, maybe you’ve never felt beautiful. Maybe you’ve been described as cute, attractive or even pretty…but never BEAUTIFUL.
Doesn’t every woman want to be beautiful? I mean the Hollywood-drop-dead-gorgeous-kinda’-beautiful! Don’t we all want to experience that moment in time when the planets and stars are aligned and you are glowing! Your hair, makeup and clothing are working together perfectly and when you enter a room every head turns. Suddenly a soft light surrounds you and a hush descends as you walk through the door. You stand out in 3D, larger than life itself and you gracefully float on by as everyone Oohs and Ahhs!
And then…you wake up!
And if you are honest with yourself, you know that most mornings you stumble out of bed and go through your usual routine. Then, like that wallpaper you hate, you just sort of fade into the background of the day. People do not notice you when you walk down the street or into a room.
Growing up, I was dubbed the family “bookworm”. My favorite aunt interpreted this to mean that I was uninterested in anything so frivolous as fashion. My aunt would shake her head and say to me, “You’re just such a Plain Jane.”
She made this statement, not out of cruelty or any intention to wound me, but because I took more interest in books than my personal appearance. I was strictly T-shirts and jeans back then. My hair was usually pulled back into a ponytail or two braids if I was feeling adventurous. My sister, however, loved to leaf through my aunt’s fashion magazines and do inventive things with her hair and clothing.
For many years, I carried around my aunt’s description of me as a “Plain Jane”. I shut myself off from the possibility of experiencing myself as attractive, much less (are you kidding me?)…Beautiful!!!
You have to know that our definition of beauty is just made-up Hollywood stuff with no basis in reality whatsoever!