How To Cope During Emotional Meltdowns – by Kelly Burch

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Okay so you’ve had a meltdown. You’ve lost it. You’ve had a mega tantrum. It happens. We’re all human and at some point or another get triggered and stressed and react in a way we wouldn’t choose to.

Instead of berating ourselves, give the energy body some TLC to get a handle on things so we can not only get on with our day, but feel better than we did prior.

Step 1. Use Emotional Freedom Technique by following the 32-steps below and tap for “Calm” or “Peace”. The instructions below are for “Calm”, which is my personal favourite! The below is one round of Energy EFT (created by Silvia Hartmann) with the intention of de-stressing and improving energy flow through the body. It helps to stop the spiral into devil-with-horns mode if things are left to escalate.

  1. Place both hands on the centre of your chest (the Heart Healing position).
  2. Take three deep breaths.
  3. Tap gently on the top of your head (with your pointer finger).
  4. While tapping there, take a deep breath, and say “Calm”.
  5. Tap gently on the centre-middle of your forehead.
  6. While tapping there, take a deep breath, and say “Calm”.
  7. Tap gently on the inner point of one eyebrow (at the top of the nose).
  8. While tapping there, take a deep breath, and say “Calm”.
  9. Tap gently on the outer side of one eye.
  10. While tapping there, take a deep breath, and say “Calm”.
  11. Tap gently under one eye.
  12. While tapping there, take a deep breath, and say “Calm”.
  13. Tap gently underneath your nose.
  14. While tapping there, take a deep breath, and say “Calm”.
  15. Tap gently underneath your mouth.
  16. While tapping there, take a deep breath, and say “Calm”.
  17. Tap gently on your collarbone.
  18. While tapping there, take a deep breath, and say “Calm”.
  19. Tap gently on the side of your thumb’s nailbed.
  20. While tapping there, take a deep breath, and say “Calm”.
  21. Tap gently on the side of your pointer finger’s nailbed.
  22. While tapping there, take a deep breath, and say “Calm”.
  23. Tap gently on the side of your middle finger’s nailbed.
  24. While tapping there, take a deep breath, and say “Calm”.
  25. Tap gently on the side of your ring finger’s nailbed.
  26. While tapping there, take a deep breath, and say “Calm”.
  27. Tap gently on the side of your pinky finger’s nailbed.
  28. While tapping there, take a deep breath, and say “Calm”.
  29. Tap on the karate chop point (fleshy side of the hand).
  30. While tapping there, take a deep breath, and say “Calm”.
  31. Return the hands to the centre of the chest.
  32. Take three deep breaths.
If these instructions are difficult to understand at all, please tap along with my silent video here: Energy EFT

Step 2. Remind yourself that this meltdown or tantrum isn’t who you are, nor who you will be forever. You’re not an awful person, a terrible mother, a horrible wife, a bitch, or <insert negative self-talk labels here>.

The emotions and tension and reaction are symptoms of an energetic disruption. We can handle this.

You – the true you – are not your energetic disruptions. You are who is underneath.

Tame the inner monster with Energy EFT!
[image by Claire Clinch of Soul Affirmations]

Step 3. Getting back to reality now and what is going on. Ask yourself “What am I feeling right now? What’s here?” and take note of the answer. Don’t think too hard, the first answer is probably the right one. This is what needs attention and what you need to tap for. Using the above 32-step instructions, tap a round of EFT for whatever your answer was (ie. replace the word “Calm” with your answer). Yes, even if it was “I’m !@#*@&* furious!”. Whatever you’re feeling is what you will tap for. We do this to allow that feeling to flow freely so we are no longer burdened by it. Our aim is to evolve the feeling, change it into something else.

Step 4.  How are you feeling after that round? What feeling is remaining? If you are still feeling considerably negative, repeat Step 3 with whatever is there. An example might be “I’m STILL annoyed”.

If you’re now feeling  neutral and unbothered (GREAT!), don’t stop there. Focus now on how you want to feel instead, or a word or phrase that has you feeling good. Bliss, happy, fun, relaxed, successful, courageous, love! Do at least one round of tapping on a positive word or phrase.

Step 5. You’re probably feeling able to move forward with your day now. To go a little deeper, if you can put your finger on the original trigger prior to the meltdown, what was it? We are aiming to avoid having to repeat the same process daily (or hourly!) by tackling the underlying issue.

If there were many things that ticked you off, is there a pattern to them? Maybe something made you feel like a failure or not good enough. Maybe something triggered a response in you that belonged more to a different time than the present. Maybe someone’s behaviour or actions translated into something hurtful.

If there are very clear feelings about that time that haven’t been addressed by any of the previous tapping, do at least one round on them. Tap them from a negative state (ie. feeling that no one listens, your voice isn’t important) to a neutral state (ie. “I recognise times when I was heard”) to a positive state (ie.” I’m heard and respected always”, “I respect and love myself”).

This inner delving can be tricky if there are highly emotional situations that are challenging to face solo, or if there’s an inner battle going on between two parts of yourself (ie. the part that believes you’re worthy of respect and the one that believes you deserve whatever disrespect you get). If you’re unable to evolve particular beliefs on your own, please contact an Emotional Freedom Technique Master practitioner in your area to assist you.

I hope this helps you respond to a meltdown situation in future. We can apply the exact same steps for children if they are receptive. If they are not, we can use a form of tapping where we tap on ourselves on their behalf, including their name in the tapping phrase. For example, instead of “Calm”, you might tap for “Calm Sam”, or “Sam is calm”. And instead of “I’m so angry!”, it could be “Sam’s anger” or “Sam is angry”.

To sum up:

  • Tap for “Calm”.
  • Remember that what you’re feeling is only energy, not who you are.
  • Tap for the pressing emotions until feeling neutral.
  • Tap for a positive affirmation which is how you would like to feel instead.

Kelly Burch is owner of Transformations With Kelly Burch and uses energy techniques to help her clients to overcome emotional issues and to reach a place of calm and happiness. She is extremely passionate about the energy body and its use not only in healing but creativity, information and relaxation. She is mother to two young children and four pet chickens.

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Kelly is an Energist, certified Emotional Freedom Technique Master Practitioner and trainer, and Australian Bush Flower Essence Practitioner. She lives with her husband, two children, cat, and four chickens in Berwick, Victoria, Australia.


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